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A circumstance is never good or bad. It is a cause and an opportunity to make us good or bad. The choice is ours.

Circumstances are always pre decided in our lives or as we often call it ‘predestined’. We have no choices for a change in situation. But we have a choice in how we conduct ourselves through the situations.

A positive and optimistic attitude helps us deal, properly.

Life is a platter of situations. Each day dawns with a plateful of situations. One day the menu served may be tasteful and appealing and on the other day it may be tawdry and not palatable at all. We seldom have a choice in what is being dished up. But we do have a choice whether we eat up or eat on.

Nevertheless it’s our duty that at the end of the day we do justice to every situation.

We often hear people saying ‘why does this always happen to me’ or ‘why me’. These utterances are from people who harp and dwell in self pity. God and life is never partial. He doesn’t endow a few privileged with all the good luck and nor does he dump a others with all the misfortunes. We all have our share of luck and misfortunes. It is just a matter of perception.

What one perceives as a tough situation, will be perceived as an opportunity by the other, which eventually helps him to prove oneself or renders a learning lesson.

What are circumstances? Circumstances are incidents or developments in our life. Some are happy, some are sad. Some are compulsive and some are impulsive. Still some are heart breaking, some are emotionally mending. Some are smart, some are trying, some frivolous and some are serious. Yet some are tempting, some are rave and some grave. Situations are plenty with a plentitude of responses.Its our attitude that decides the outcome of the situation. A positive attitude and a fighting spirit makes us more inviolable and infrangible.

The gravest of all the situations is a death in the family. The lives of all the immediate family members are shattered. The life stalls for the time being. Temporarily everyone in the family swagger and stumble under the pain and agony of the loss. It’s natural to take some time to gather all the broken pieces and begin again. Strong should begin, albeit after some gap, but weak souls break under the pressure. There are lots of families who have overcome the aftermath of such fatal and catastrophic event. The children become independent, mature fast and understand the life better and grow stronger every day. This untoward situation has actually inculcated virtues in family members that are essential for being an achiever. A death couldn’t be averted but dealing with the situation in a positive manner has actually ushered a spirited vigour. On the other hand if the family members had sulked and brooded over the loss and had not mustered enough courage and will power to forge ahead, then the consequences would have been totally opposite. Those who don’t fight in an adverse situation end up being losers consistently.

Happy situations and good times are always welcome. It’s a state of bliss. We laugh, dance, party, eat and make merry. We all try to make most of it. If we had a little circumspection, the power of making free choices unconstrained by external agencies, then we would never let such circumstances end. But nothing is permanent. Happy situations are not forever. The fear of losing a happy situation makes weak souls insecure. Such people often lose self confidence and keep thinking moodily or anxiously about something that has not happened, but on the other extreme a few develop an overconfidence, which spoils the essence of such situations. Great people learn contentment and humility during such periods.

At the end of the day what really matters is how strong and contended our stance made us, while dealing with the circumstances.